“Na shashvatam jeevanam, amaram premam”
–
Life is not forever but love is.
Marriage is by definition a celebration of
love. It is an acknowledgement of the love that the two joining souls
authenticate. But unfortunately in India we still follow the ridiculous norm of
arranged marriage which gives a false sense of safety and security in the
matrimony. It is just a subliminal ego boost to the parents who can turn the
illusion of control they have on their children into reality. The procedure
involved in arranged marriage is equally tedious and bafflingly biased for no
particular reason. The bride’s parents starts to find the perfect match from
the day their daughter is born. Finding a suitor who is supposedly a perfect
match for your child after carefully scrutinizing their entire pedigree from
wealth to health, from social status to genetic background, from their doctor
to their tailor. Saving up penny after penny so as to fulfill the hideous greed
of the vultures. The groom’s parents on the other hand strives in value
addition and marketing of their product, forcing their son to take a specified
sure shot money minting course which later acts as a USP in his final sale
irrespective of his desire and the mountainous fees which they are sure will be
recovered during marriage. After the purchase is done the bride and groom, like
a pre-programmed moronic robots fall in love with each other and lead their
happy lives as a perfect couple who they are told time and time again by
everyone that the match is made in heaven and continue to live in the false
illusion of love. But this is the normal social protocol, a time tested
principle which works because of people’s perspective which I think is seeing a
radical change, thankfully. It is this
arranged marriage that has led to sexual bias in India. On the one hand we have
two strangers falling in love after getting married, on the other we have two
people coming together after trying for themselves for compatibility. Sharing each
other’s feelings, common traits, accepting different behaviors, QA, QC and then
the final step of matrimony. The evil abomination of dowry can be completely
rooted out through love marriage, where there is sexual equality and both parents
receive equal credibility which they rightly deserve. The only concern begging
attention in love marriage is people fall in love multiple times and take it
lightly. The sacred relationship has become too casual due to western influence
and believing that infatuation is love and falling prey to myriad predators lying
in wait to trap the innocent, desolate and desperate. The other thing we have
to understand is that cowards and people who are selfish can’t fall in love.
People who cannot stand up for their love are not fit to be loved. Love makes a
person courageous. People in true love can face the whole world on their own,
they can go against their own parents and family and teaches them
interdependence, instills them with hope and faith in themselves and humanity.
Only love breaks all social norms like religion, economic status, nationality,
caste, creed, and even sex and unites us all. By creating awareness, patience, and
seriousness and listening to no one but your true feelings of the heart, there
is no stopping the arranging of love marriage. There is a shloka in our Vedas
which describes the six characteristics attributed to love-
“Dadati
pratigrihanti
Guhyam
akhyati pricchati
Bhunkte
bhojayate chaiva
Shad
vidham priti lakshanam”
Which means that
in love you give, you receive, tell secrets, hear secrets, feed, and get fed
which are the six principles of love. Marriage must be an institution where
love and only love alone must triumph.
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